So… I have this tree on the side of my garage that blooms pretty white flowers early spring, they are gone by May. The bees love it…. particularly those huge bumblebees.
Now, I’ve been running from bumblebees my entire life. I have always been scared of getting stung. Plus, they are intimidating. There is just something about that loud buzzing sound that scares the crap outta me, seriously. So I avoid them. Whenever people see me running for my life, they say “Oh, they won’t bother you. They are harmless”. I know I look crazy girating and running around, but I’m sorry, but that’s not enough detail for me – they LOOK and SOUND like they will hurt me! It wasn’t until I was online researching how to get rid of them that I understood why people kept saying that – it’s because bumblebees DON’T STING you!
I was like “Whaaaaat”? I’ve been scared of something my entire life, that truly can’t hurt me! After the feeling of utter stupidity left, I had to chuckle! These bumblebees won’t even sting me and I’m trying to figure out how to exterminate them into oblivion!
My story may seem a tad overdramatic, but it’s the total truth. And it made me think – that isn’t that how we operate in life sometimes? We just want the uncomfortable things to go away – often with limited information on the options we have. Sometimes a little research or a conversation with someone experienced would ease our fears – change our perspective. We are often running from the ‘bumblebees’ in our finances. Whether we are hiding from bill collectors or jumping on this week’s popular financial strategy scared we will ‘miss out’. It’s all based on fear and limited information.
When an issue or opportunity arises – whether it’s money, biz, career, or whatever, never make a decision under pressure. I have learned to ‘sit and settle’ with it before I move.
Here are some steps I take:
- I first research everything I can to determine my options.
- Then I seek the advice of people smarter than me or who have experience with my issue or opportunity. I tell them what I’ve read up on and then I ask their opinions because I trust them.
- I write down the pros and cons of each direction I’m thinking of.
If I have an UGH feeling in my gut – I know I haven’t found an answer. That feeling goes away when you are operating from a place of knowledge, and when you have looked at an issue every way possible. Only then can you move forward confidently. Yep, that’s when you realize you don’t need to run from the bumblebee because though it is large, intimidating and makes a lot of noise – it won’t sting you.
Here’s to rockin’ not only your #moneychat but EVERY area of your life!
Your Financial Coach,